When we have hurt somebody by promising them something that never materialized, Paul offers four bits of advice to help us return peace to that relationship.
1. If my comfort level is to be determined by how others treat me I will be severely disappointed. Ultimately, peace only comes from God.Who has disappointed us today? Be willing to recognize their lives may be filled with turmoil and they could use a little comfort. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ...who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction"
2. Stick to the facts. Don't get caught up in emotions of defensiveness. Be willing to sit with them as equals and tell them what has been going on in your life? Is your narrative compelling enough to diffuse any pointed accusations? "For we do not want you to be unaware, brethren..."
3. When we need to make peace with somebody we must do our self-reflection and ensure our actions toward that person have been sincere? Have they been "without wax"? or, have there been hidden claims and actions that we have concealed...leading to misunderstanding? "we write nothing else to you than what you read and understand".
4. When we promise something that did not come to pass it should only be because God prompted us the promise was not in their best interests, Let them know we didn't simply change our mind for our own convenience. "I call God as witness to my soul, that to spare you I did not come again to Corinth".
Live boldly out there today,,,
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