2 Corinthians 1:8-11

For we do not want you to be unaware, brethren, of our affliction which came to us in Asia, that we were burdened excessively, beyond our strength, so that we despaired even of life; indeed, we had the sentence of death within ourselves so that we would not trust in ourselves, but in God who raises the dead; who delivered us from so great a peril of death, and will deliver us, He on whom we have set our hope. And He will yet deliver us, you also joining in helping us through your prayers, so that thanks may be given by many persons on our behalf for the favor bestowed on us through the prayers of many. 2 Corinthians 1:8-11 Somebody once told me...in the midst of great confusing turmoil..."it's hard to remember you came to drain the swamp when you're up to your hips in alligators!" Part of making things right is offering explanations. Not as excuses for bad behavior, but as context. Paul knew he had promised to visit Corinth. He knew he was being maligned for not yet having done so. In this situation Paul decided the best thing he could do is explain what he had been doing since his last visit (about 52AD). He tells them of the heavy trials experienced in Ephesus. He had been exposed to death and had despaired of life; yet he had been delivered.  Notice, he doesn't open with an apology...just a simple narrative of his life. So, he avoided the two things I so naturally do when I need to make peace. 1. Make an apology (I feel inferior)2. Refuse to explain (I feel superior) The reason, I believe, Paul doesn't begin with an apology is because he knows he didn't do anything wrong. The reason he explained his situation is because he knew they deserved to know. I suppose, if the explanation is compelling the need for an apology is negated. 
But...it's tough to remember our purpose is to clear up a misunderstanding when we're up to our eyeballs in emotions of either inferiority or superiority.

So, I'll ask you this: Do you need to make peace with somebody? Can you avoid being sidetracked by emotions of inferiority or superiority? Are you willing to sit with them as equals and tell them what has been going on in your life? Is your narrative compelling enough to diffuse any pointed accusations?

If not...an apology may be appropriate.

Do you recognize what is so brilliant about this tactic? There are no good guys or bad guys...just people communicating.

Live boldly out there today...